‘Round the Square: ‘Do not marry at all’
Round the Square
February 4, 2026

‘Round the Square: ‘Do not marry at all’

ADVICE: We find ourselves learning so much as we do research for this column! For example, a suffragette pamphlet from 1918, currently in a museum in Wales, offers Advice on Marriage to Young Ladies.

“1. Do not marry at all.

  1. But if you must avoid the Beauty Men, Flirts, and the Bounders, Tailor’s Dummies, and the Football Enthusiasts.
  2. Look for a Strong, Tame Man, a Fire-lighter, Coal-getter, Window Cleaner, and Yard Swiller.
  3. Don’t expect too much, most men are lazy, selfish, thoughtless, lying, drunken, clumsy, heavy-footed, rough, unmanly brutes, and need taming.
  4. All Bachelors are, and many are worse still.
  5. If you want him to be happy, Feed the Brute.
  6. The same remark applies to Dogs.
  7. You will be wiser not to chance it, it isn’t worth the risk.”

The list is signed “A Suffragette Wife.” We’re guessing she wasn’t happy with her husband.

The movement made known names like Susan B. Anthony, Elizabeth Cady Stanton and Alice Paul. And activists like Ida B. Wells and Carrie Chapman Catt.

Many of the suffragettes’ strongest supporters were men, called suffragents. Thomas Payne, political activist, philosopher, revolutionary, inspired the patriots to declare independence from Great Britain, and also pleaded for the better treatment of women.

While Susan B. Anthony was a famous women’s rights activist, her role model was her father, Daniel Anthony, who provided both financial and moral support for her work in abolition and women’s rights.

Frederick Douglass spoke in favor of women’s suffrage, saying the world would be a better place if women were involved in the political realm.

In more modern times, Alan Alda — Hawkeye from “MASH” — has been a longtime supporter of women’s rights. 

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