Healing through touch: Connecting with loved ones living with dementia
Do you have a loved one with dementia and find it difficult to connect as their ability to speak declines? Or do you hesitate to visit someone in a nursing home because you’re unsure what to say or do?
“Nothing is so healing as the human touch,” said Bobby Fischer — a quote that inspired a meaningful discussion led by Becky Bona, licensed massage therapist and owner of Heavenly Touch, at the Elk County Dementia Caregiver Support Group’s May meeting.
Bona, whose mother lived with dementia for 14 years, shared how intentional human touch can serve as a powerful form of communication, especially in the later stages of the disease. “When words no longer work, a simple touch can say everything,” Bona explained. Holding a loved one’s hand or gently placing a hand on their shoulder can convey presence, comfort, and love — reminding them they are not alone.
Sadly, many individuals with dementia experience touch only during routine caregiving tasks like bathing, dressing, or medical care. “That’s not enough,” Bona emphasized. “Touch, given with care and intention, helps release endorphins, encourages deeper breathing, and promotes a sense of overall well-being.”
She encouraged caregivers to approach visits with calmness and purpose. Sitting at eye level, saying hello, and gently stating your name and why you’re there can create a safe and soothing atmosphere. “Even sitting quietly together, simply holding hands, can be deeply rewarding for both the caregiver and the person with dementia,” she added.
In addition to touch, Bona introduced the therapeutic benefits of aromatherapy and essential oils. Peppermint oil, she noted, may help improve oxygen and energy levels, while bergamot and lavender oils can be utilized to soothe anxiety, offering gentle, holistic ways to support emotional and physical well-being.
The Dementia Caregiver Support Group meets on the third Thursday of every month from 3 to 5 p.m. at the Fox Township Senior Center. All caregivers and family members are welcome.
For more information, contact Jeanette Stump at (814) 772-5461.
