Abusers tend to protect themselves by controlling and manipulating their victims. There are typically clear signs to help determine when to call for help.

Common indicators of abuse include:

• Name calling or demeaning comments

• Someone that seems too good to be true early in a relationship; the relationship may advance very quickly

• Frequent phone calls or texts

• Threatens to harm or kill you, your pet(s) or family members

• Blames you for the abusive behavior; does not take responsibility for actions

• Prevents you from spending time with family or friends and from enjoying hobbies and other activities

• Damages your credit by exceeding limits, purposely not paying bills, etc.; may restrict your access to financial resources

One of the best ways to help someone in an abusive situation is to listen to them and support them. Try to help the person you care about feel empowered, but leave the decision making up to them. Encourage them to seek the help of an advocate at their local domestic violence program, like the Victims’ Resource Center at the YWCA Bradford.