(ARA) – First-time brides and grooms are older than ever before,
according to recent U.S. Census Bureau figures. The median age for
men marrying for the first time is now 28 and it’s 26 for women –
that’s 30 percent older than in 1960.
Because today’s first marriages are occurring later in life –
not to mention second or third marriages – more often the modern
dilemma is whose couch stays and tallying how many flat-screen TVs
the couple has between them.
When couples married 40 years ago they were barely into their
20s and often still living at home. The traditional wedding shower
carried great value in that age as it supplied newlyweds with all
the necessities that married life required, including dishes,
cookware and bedding.
Bob Gomori got married last year at 27 – just one year shy of
the median age for men. However, Gomori had already built a
successful career as a franchisee of the moving company Two Men and
a Truck in Youngstown, Ohio, and he’d already owned his own home
for several years. He had a unique vantage point of the challenges
associated with combining households for first marriages.
“It’s tough because you both have things that you want to keep,
but to keep it all is certainly not the most efficient thing to
do,” Gomori says. “The successful couples I see as a mover are
those who take first marriage as an opportunity to take inventory
of what they have and sort it out before they combine homes. I know
it’s a lot to think about, particularly with wedding plans in the
works, but ultimately you avoid moving things two or three times,
and you save money in the long run.”
Certified professional organizer Monica Ricci is a renowned
organizing expert, speaker and author based in Atlanta. Ricci
counsels her clients on effective organizing and simplifying
strategies for home and work, and offers free advice at
www.CatalystOrganizing.com.
“Try not to be too attached to something simply because it’s
yours,” says Ricci. “You each deserve to keep some items you love.
Remember, the more you streamline now, the easier your move will
be. “
Ricci and Gomori agree proper planning is the key to starting
off on the right foot in the early years of marriage. They suggest
the following tips for combining households for first-time
marriages:
* Go through each house together, and identify which items are
duplicates. Talk about each item honestly. If you can legitimately
use two of something in your new life, such as televisions or
stereos, go ahead and keep both.
* Do the same evaluation for small items, such as silverware, as
you do for the larger items. These smaller items can add up
quickly, and often produce the most basement or attic clutter.
* Organize with boxes and colored markers. Contact your local
Two Men and a Truck moving company to purchase a variety of box
sizes before you begin so you can appropriately tag and box both
items that stay and those that go along the way.
* Think about donating to those in need. If a garage sale isn’t
of interest, consider donating to local churches or synagogues,
homeless shelters or the Salvation Army.
The experts agree that couples can successfully blend two
households if they take time on the front end to address the move.
The key, as with all organizing projects, is proper planning. For
more moving advice, visit www.twomenandatruck.com.
Courtesy of ARAcontent
